Dotti Berry, iDigital Media Pro Empowering Entrepreneurs

How Understanding Quantum Physics can Help Create Your Dreams

Our truest life is when we are in our dream AWAKE!
…Henry David Thoreau

Are you asleep or awake? One of the most important things in creating your dreams is to visualize in minute detail exactly what you want to create…and here’s the clincher…WITHOUT being attached to a specific outcome! Ouch!

Creating the specific details of what you desire, yet being unattached to specific outcome seems like a paradox!  Yes…a paradox… since you are dealing with a proposition (visualizing your dreams in minute detail without being attached to the specific outcome) that seems self-contradictory or absurd, but in reality expresses a potential truth!

When you become attached to a specific outcome, you actually erode your ability to manifest whatever you desire. Here’s why…

Attachment to a specific outcome means that fear, frustration, disappointment, and anger often derail your ability to stick with whatever happens along the way (i.e., obstacles, changes, encounters with people).  The chaos that we naturally encounter in the process of change (and utilizing a quantum physics model) means that we move from a stable to a metastable state.  It is not possible to skip the chaos state.  It is at the point of chaos, however, that we will move in one of two directions,

1. Chaos turns into F.E.A.R. (False Elements Appear Real), causing you to travel backwards to a stable state (which in quantum physics is the same thing as being stuck or dead), or…
2. Chaos turns into F.E.A.R. (Full Evolution Attracts Reality)  propelling you through chaos to a metastable state where everything is possible, the “aha” moments happen naturally and easily, you experience your authentic and unique self, and all dreams are actualized.

This picture illustrates this necessary process of moving from a stable state through chaos to a metastable state, where our authentic, unique self resides.

Create your dreams by visualizing the rooms of a home. Visualize the specific details of each and every room, with each one representing an aspect of your DREAM LIFE you desire.  Hold onto that end result of a beautiful “dream home,” while being unattached to the details of how that manifests.

Dr. Michael J. Duckett speaks about the importance of the details in this short video below.

Folks…it’s about PROGRESS...not Perfection.  When you dare to dance on the edge, and then take a flying leap off, trusting that you will either fly or find solid ground, you will look at CHAOS in a whole different light.  You will welcome it as if it is gold!  (And, truly it is). You will also find yourself saying, “That was E-A-S-Y!’

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Connecting with Andrea Waltz…Take the 30 Day Challenge & watch “Go for NO!”

Here’s an example of how cool it can be to connect with people, simply by passing along something of value when you identify it. This is how the story began. Cathy Buchanan, a friend of mine in my primary business, sent me a link to this fabulous this 3 minute video called “Go for NO!” Well, I was thrilled with it. I immediately sent it out to my team. I tell people that I get up everything morning hoping to hear “No.” They look at me like I am crazy (which is sometimes true), with a quizzical look on their face. I then explain that if I am willing to hear “No,” I am assured of hearing “YES!” It’s sort of like committing to having authenticity in your relationships, whether business or personal. If I am willing to commit to being transparent and truth telling and sometimes uncomfortable and painful moments because of it, I am assured of having aha moments and genuine authentic connection and intimacy and love in my life. Back to “Go to NO!” Andrea’s short video, however, is 10 times more powerful than me simply sharing that “tidbit of wisdom.” It all goes back to what I say about marketing. People are not duplicable. SYSTEMS are! So, people can’t drag me around with them on a daily basis, saying, “Dotti…tell my friend what you say about getting up every day hoping you hear ‘No.’ ” On the other hand, anyone can watch this 3 minute video every single day. Why not try this. Commit to a 30 day program of watching “Go for NO!” See what happens. Anyway, to continue…I Twittered about “Go for NO!” and talked about it on Facebook…I wrote a blog about the most inspiring videos on the internet, and chose “Go for NO!” as the best 3 minute one. I also contacted Andrea Waltz, who developed the program, and told her how much I like it, tshared hat I had twittered about it, and that I had blogged about it. GUESS WHAT HAPPENED? She wrote me back and offered to send me a free signed copy of her boook (which I did not yet have because I had just discovered the video and was excitedly getting out the word about it). I then wrote back and gave her my address, accepting her kind outreach. You know, great gestures like that make a big difference. I then made sure I connected up with Andrea in every way I could in order to stay abreast of any new info she puts out, and right there on Facebook, she wrote on my wall…”Hi Dotti! Glad to get to know you! Your signed copy of “Go for No!” is on the way today…”   One last funny part…for years, I have been telling people that I failed my way to success in business, running into obstacles, crawling over obstacles, and removing obstacles until I found the success I sought.  I wanted to take my current primary business to a new level.  That began my journey of learning & discovering (meaning eating, sleeping and breathing) what I have coined as Age of Influence Marketing ™. You might be saying, “What is that?”  It is literally online, attraction marketing on steroids. The good part is that THESE steroids are LEGAL! I guess my bottom line is now that I have discovered you, Andrea, we’re connected and friends for life!  I would apologize for “plagarizing” what I see in all of your writing about “fail your way to success,” but I promise I had not come across your work until now and have been saying it for my 30 year journey of failing my way to success.

One example of failing my way to success…
One year after my business was named ASI (Advertising Specialities Institute) Small Business of the Year in the United States in 1995, I started another business, only to have two business partners embezzle everything, sending me back to ground zero. I picked myself back up, determined not to be a victim.  I decided instead to use it as a learning experience, telling people that I would have gladly paid a quarter million dollars for the lessons I learned and the insights I gained about myself, but I would have rather had it been my choice to spend the money.   I committed to social justice work on behalf of obtaining equal rights for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons…started on my doctorate work to become a clinical sexologist…and later embarked on a year-long journey across America in 2005/06.  None of this would probably have happened if everything had “gone the way I planned.”  It fit right into my philosophy that matches what Helen Keller said, “Life is a Daring Adventure or Nothing at All.” And,  I certainly would  probably not be involved in coaching and teaching people about internet and social media marketing had my real estate holdings not been impacted by renters not paying.  But I LOVE THE LIFE I HAVE!

Our friend, Peggy Campolo, wrote Roby yesterday and said I was just like her husband, Tony…a racehorse!  I consider that comparison to Tony to be the highest compliement!  At 55, some people start believing the saying about “the old gray mare, she ain’t what she used to be.”  Are you kidding me? As long as I am connecting with people, living my truth, living as the gift that I am, and being present to my moments, I will continue to live, love and laugh my way through life.  I will dance on the edge before leaping into the air into a swan dive, trusting that the best will happen and that a safety net will be available whenever I need it.  I believe that I am in front of a powerful tsunami.  Unfortunately, a literal tsunami has made us forget that the word doesn’t necessarily have to represent something bad.  It’s all about positioning.  If I position myself right, I can be in front of this powerful online,/internet/social marketing/social media tsunami and allow it to propel me forward.  I can simultaneously fail my way to success, while daring to ride the wave to success.

I enjoy people who are willing to take risks, for I know that person has an energy that offers an exchange in relationship that allows us to empower one another. Andrea doesn’t know it yet, but she’s being added to my Life Team, people whose energy I want to engage.   Stay tuned for that blog soon on my Life Team Top 10! I just put this “terminology” into my life playbook as I read one of my most recent favorite books, The One Decision, by Judith Wright.  Now, Judith, listen up…you are on my Life Team Top 10 too!  Roby recently wrote her, sharing how we are reading the book together, with Roby reading it out loud to me as we sit in the hot tub or in the sun room each morning, enjoying our cup of coffee.  We often do this because Roby is a kinisthetic learner and either has to read the book out door to have its meaning “stick” with her or listen to it on MP3 (which we also do through Audible).  We were so enjoying the book, which I picked up in a little bookstore in San Francisco.  Ok, I know it seems like I am going off track here, but the threads are meaningful to me!  I was there at the Institute, where I am finishing my doctorate in Human Sexuality.  After class, I decided to go watch where they were filming Milk.  Old cars lined the street and I looked across and saw Sean Penn standing in front of Harvey Milk’s old photography store which they had restored to its original look. Who knew at that time that Sean would go on to win the Oscar for Best Actor?  Check out his acceptance speech.  Obviously, I love it because he embraces and understands my desire for marriage equality.  You might be asking how I got from Andrea’s “Go for NO!” to the movie, Milk and Sean Penn.  Think about it.  Harvey Milk was the quintessential walking billboard for “Go for NO!” Nothing stopped his quest for creating equality for ALL (not just the GLBT community)…not even putting his life at risk.  In fact, if Harvey were alive, Andrea would probably have him signed as one of her spoke persons!

Ok, back to my time in San Francisco. I then walked in a bookstore that caught my eye (I never walk past one that doesn’t).  It was directly across the street from Harvey’s old photography store.  As I browsed, I saw Judith’s book, The ONE Decision.  The title immediately resonated with me on a DNA level and I picked it up, read the back cover, flipped through the pages, and bought it immediately.  I then got “consumed” with school, real estate investing, and “life stuff” with it sitting on my bookshelf until Roby picked it up recently.  She began reading it, and then we were suddenly reading it together.  The time had come for this book to BE in my life. Although I am normally the one who likes to use yellow highlighter pen and make notes in my books, Roby felt a desire to do that with this book, recognizing it is going to be a “Life Bible” for us.  Roby contacted the Wright Leadership Institute, placed our order and discovered that we would also receive two complimentary guest invitations to one of Judith’s week-end trainings.  Roby then wrote an email to Judith, sharing how impactful the book is being for her, although just halfway completed at the time, and how much we were enjoying it together.  We  received the kindest personal note back from Judith, saying how touched she was by Roby’s email. And…when the book arrived, there were FOUR, not two, complimentary invitations, allowing us to invite our dear friends Kimberly & Kelli to join us!

I told Roby, “Well, Judith doesn’t know it yet, but I don’t just want to read her book.  I want her as a personal friend!”  Same way I feel about Anderea.  Am I saying that we are all going to become personal friends? Not necessarily, but maybe so.  I leave it open to the possibility  the universe brings as we attract people into our lives.  What I am saying is that these are the types of individuals with whom I want to surround myself.  Folks, if you don’t shoot the ball above the rim, you will never score!  (my background from being Women’s Basketball Coach at the University of Kentucky causes me to often use basketball analogies!).  I already realize that Judith is a “Go for NO!” person and Andrea is a “ONE Decision” person.  Me?  I’m also both, so hear me out, Andrea and Judith, I am recruiting you for MY LIFE TEAM!

Back to Andrea and “Go for NO!”  Next, check out her “Fail Your Way to Success” blog. Last, but not least, go to her “Go for NO!” website. Check out her You Tube video from being a guest on Idol Chat.

What do you do next? Get Judith’s and Andrea’s books NOW! (click below) .  Also, take the 30 day “Go for NO!” challenge I am suggesting…Engage & BE PRESENT with yourself for 3 minutes each day by watching ”Go for NO!” for 30 days, and watch your success explode!  And, remember, it’s all about authentic connections…mine with myself, mine with you, and ours with one another!

Guess what?? Just as I was finishing this blog post, my signed copy of Andrea’s book arrived in the mail.  Isn’t synchronicity magnificent? Stay tuned for a future blog about my “LIFE TEAM.”

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